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What is the effect on marriage of wives' affairs with other women? Does it mean they are unfaithful? In our current post modern times of multi-layered experience, a woman's sexual attractions are influenced by social and cultural constructions, personal history, as well as inner strivings, situational, and marital factors. The meaning of a wife's extramarital affair with a woman is a unique experience with a private meaning that differs for each and every woman. I will explore some of these multiple meanings of married women's affairs with other women that I wrote about in my book Daring Wives: Insight into Women's Desires for Extramarital Affairs. The effect on marriage is manifold as a husband may feel his wife has not only betrayed him with another woman, but that she knew about her sexual longings and, in fact, has been betraying him right along. The research shows otherwise. There is evidence that a woman's sexuality is flexible, plastic, and may change over time. Childhood indicators of sexual orientation do not necessarily indicate a woman's later sexual orientation. For some women, sexual orientation may well be an emergent phenomenon, rather than an early-appearing trait .
Then there are some women have always known that they had sexual desires for other women and their marriage may be a way of trying to conform to societal constraints about same sex relationships. In that case, the woman, may have, unwittingly, used the marriage as an experiment to see if a relationship with a man could ‘cure' her of her lesbian leanings. The state of the marriage ─ a situational factor ─ can also influence a woman's expression of her same sex desires. Women want mutual power, reciprocity, recognition, empathy, and emotional attunement in the marital relationship. If her husband fails in these area ─and a woman does ─ a woman may be surprised by her emerging sexual feelings towards her female friend. In other cases, a husband may encourage his wife's affairs with other woman. Indeed, a husband still wields a great deal of power in his wife's choices. He may ask his wife to engage with him in swinging ─ that she engages in sex with another woman and that he watches or participates. Research indicates that although woman had no prior sexual attraction to another woman, after engaging in swinging with another woman, many continued to have sex with both men and women.