Life is made possible because people are not made to stay on their own islands. Life is that much more interesting because there is human interaction, networking and relationship all the time. You can relate with people at various levels ranging from family, business, society, national and international levels. Relationships know no distance, race, background nor even financial portfolio. People relate for various reasons but mostly it is the desire to seek some sort of benefit from the other person while also contributing positively to the well being of the one you relate to. Relationships are intentional. One chooses the kind of people they want to relate to and they pursue those individuals. They are not always successful the first time but with persistence it pays of when the relationships finally take shape and bring value to those involved. It is the quality of your relationship that determines the value and life span of that relationship.
1. Communication is constant
No relationship can survive where there is no regular and consistent communication between the parties involved. It is regular communication that cements relationship[s. All the issue that the other party desire to know are within the other individual and extracting them is only possibly through interaction not guesswork or investigation. It is best to interact every so often to ensure the relations remain solid and unwaveringly strong. With modern technology, relationships are made sure due to advances in communication tools.
2. Tolerance and mutual understanding
Relationships thrive where individuals are tolerant of each other's view points, strengths and weaknesses. Basically all this emanates from understanding of each other and learning to tolerate what you see. This is not to justify paying a blind eye on critical issues. When you understand and tolerate someone, it is easier to reach out to them and give direction
3. Ability to resolve issues
A relationship with no capacity to resolve matters will not see the light of day. Its lifespan will be cut short. When people argue and resolve issues, they emerge stronger and better able to handle each other's temperaments and passions. Learn to resolve issues without involving other parties such as counselors etc. It just destroys confidence on either side.
4. Trust and transparency
Relationships have these two as the foundation. You have to develop trust in the one you are relating with. You have to be vulnerable enough to let them know what you are facing and not feel condemned or victimized.
5. Love and Care
There should be a level of caring and loving one another on either side of the relationship. Relations are bi directional meaning that you give love and get love, you care for and you are also cared for in return. Once any relationship is focused on one side, manipulation is inevitable and eventually burnout creeps in as this becomes an expensive and involving investment by one person
6. Protection of each other (security and confidence)
Every relationship is bound by codes and ethics which may not necessarily be written down. Individuals who protect one another will stay together longer and connect at ease. Information shared should never be revealed to others unnecessarily.
7. Passion to be together
There must always be the fire and deep seated desire to companionship. When you stop valuing the person you are in relationship with, that is a sure sign of a relationship on a death bed.
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