You may be in a relationship that seems a bit shaky. Even though you see your spouse everyday, you still feel lonely. This may come from a lack of intimacy between the two of you, but it is not necessarily a sexual situation.
Great sex will not solve the problem of lack of intimacy. Unless you are still in adolescent stage, or just act like a young kid, sex is not the answer and will not help you work out your problems. Keeping a relationship strong is more than just holding hands. There are various pieces that need to fit in order to have a solid relationship.
Bring focus on the good and compatible values that you both share. Each of us are unique and not perfect. Learn to bring balance into the relationship and realize that no partnership is entirely perfect or happy all the time. There will be times when you will disagree, but if it happens too much everyday, then it is time to examine the relationship and decide whether or not to end the affair.
Take the time to consider other solutions before you decide to have hotter sex. Look at what brought you together in the first place. Did you have hobbies or interest in common? Are you still doing things together now? If not, why did you stop?
If you look at the changes in your life since you first met, you may easily see why things are not going so well. Are there events or places you stop going to together? Did a vacation slip you by this year? You might see you had a lot of fun together before besides great sex.
Have you taken the time to talk to your partner and find out how they feel about the situation? They may have other ideas on why this is not working. Stop trying to seek help from friends or relatives for they really do not know what is on your mind or your mate. Both of you need to work on this together to save your relationship.
Share your feelings with your partner and let them give you their side without judging. Present a quite and safe environment to give them time to talk. No talking back or yelling just listen to them. This will help develop respect in the relationship and your partner will be willing to open up more if they know you will listen.
Once you hear out your partner, then it is your turn to express yourself. If both of you are still at odds and can not communicate without getting emotionally upset, then pull back and try again after a few days. Hotter sex is not the answer. Taking a step back may help you see things they said a little clearly and help you save your relationship..
Although you may be tempted to just use sex as a way to spice up your relationship, it is not long lasting. It becomes a cover up for feelings. That alone will not save your relationship. Dig a little deeper into the cause of your conflict. Try to also see their side. Once resolved, great sex will come as an added bonus.
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