Thursday, September 16, 2010

7 Reasons Why Some Men Get Extremely Nervous Around Women They Like!




Many women think that men are supposed to be the confident ones when it comes to relationships and asking girls out on dates. When they see a guy that gets very nervous around women they don't really understand why. These reasons will help you to understand a man and why he might get nervous around a girl that he likes.

He's fearful that he will not be able to impress the girl
For many men, when they are attracted to a woman they want to show off all their best traits and his good side. He may become nervous around her because he may feel like he is not good enough for her.

He has reservations about if she will really like him
There are a lot of things that a guy needs to find out about a girl when he is first getting to know her. He may be unsure of what things she likes to do or what she is interested in. A man may become nervous when he does not know too much about the girl the likes so it is best to start up a conversation with him and get to know each other better.

He is afraid to make mistakes
A guy may be nervous about approaching a girl that he likes because of friends that may have recently gotten a divorce or their relationships have not worked out. He could be nervous that he would make some kind of mistake that would cause this for him and the girl.

He thinks that he might act the wrong way in front of her
Most times a guy will be most nervous about how a girl might react when he finally gets up the guts to come up to her. He may be afraid that she will say something that will embarrass him in front of the people that are around. He could also be nervous that he won't know what to say once he does walk up to the girl.

He becomes too aware
When a guy starts thinking too much about what he will say to the girl he likes he may become nervous. When this happens he will start to think of too many things like what his next step will be once he does talk to her and this will only make him more nervous. If he plans it out too much and his words come out like they are scripted his move just won't work out.

He does not know the girl he likes
Very often a guy will set his eyes on a girl that he would like to get to know better, but he does not even know her at all. He may be nervous about approaching her because of the fear that she will not accept him or talk with him.

He does not know how to act in front of a girl
Sometimes a guy does not know how to act around the girl that he likes because he is not sure of his exact feelings for her. It is always possible however that he has never actually approached a girl that he likes before and has no idea of what he should do.

Friday, September 3, 2010

Untold ways to know you both love each other.


Before you make a judgement about your love life, its good that you ask yourself some questions. Why do you keep making the same mistakes over and over in love? Why does it seem that everybody else has a better love life than you? Because those who are happy in love have learnt, from an early age, what the clues that someone loves you are, so that they now know how to diagnose an interaction well before they invest their feelings in it.
It is imperative that, from the moment you meet the man or woman of your dreams, you know what to look for if you want to be sure that they are attracted to you and then, later on, that they actually have deep feelings for you. These clues come from:
1 - body language
2 - behaviour As per body language, immediate, genuine interest in you can be detected though subconscious signals nobody can stop displaying, no matter how hard they try. So, if the man of your dreams struts up his chest, points his feet and chest towards you, opens his mouth and keeps it open, displays grooming behaviour, looks at you from head to toes (all these when you two meet or are in proximity of each other), you can pretty much be sure that he's genuinely attracted to you. If the woman of your dreams plays with her hair, strokes parts of her body ( neck, arms), looks at your repeatedly and then looks away just as often (when you two are in the same room or area, visible to each other), you can rest assured she's got a crush for you!
As per behaviour, you know they love you when:
1 - they are genuinely interested in you, your life and your interests
2 - they listen to what you are saying attentively
3 - they find the time for you no matter how busy they are
4 - they find you interesting and funny no matter how silly the things you say are

I do hope these tips have helped your assessment? Thanks for taking time to read through.

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Ways you can strenghten your Long term relationship.


Couples who have been together a long time have a tendency to take their relationship for granted. Taking a relationship for granted may have a detrimental impact. If you want your relationship to last, do not forget to keep dating your partner. This is often scoffed at and deemed unnecessary. Dates are simple and effective. They should not be overlooked. Romance is needed to keep a relationship solid. A date is a way to help this.
Sparks still need to fly in a marriage. Dating can make this happen. They do not have to be fancy dates with tons of money spent. Simple and thoughtful is better.
Alone time is essential. Couples need to be separated for everyone else for a time on a regular basis. Love and romance can be kept alive just with the simple act of dating. Dating is imperative so your spouse does not assume that you do not want to spend time with them. Women often assume that their spouse is embarrassed to be seen with them.
Lack of dating can also induce boredom and conclusions that a spouse does not care for the other anymore. Decide you are committing to regular dating with your partner. It is acceptable to go on the same kind of date every time but try to mix it up. Expand your horizons. Do something that you have never done with your spouse before. This can create romance and bring a spark back to a relationship.

How to avoid staying single.


Observations and investigations have revealed that a lot of women who are suppose to be in their husbands house are still swimming in the ocean of singleness. No sane mother/father will ever wish that their daughters should be single at a very ripe age of forty. But truth be told, there are thousands of women who did not get married before they eventually died at a very ripe age. Not that they don't want to get married but they could not be married for obvious reasons. Sadly, most of them did not understand the reasons for their singleness. Some believe that the inability of most men to get married on time is responsible for this trend. But this is not and can never be true. Granted, the population census of some countries suggested that the population of men is slightly lower than that of the women, I don't believe that this can totally account for the huge number of single ladies recorded worldwide. There is also this common belief that men often look the direction of beautiful women when it comes to marriage. Though there is an element of truth in this claim, I want to say that every woman is beautiful. A woman beauty depend on her personal assessment. Let me ask this, if it is true that men always go for beautiful women, how come some ugly women are married and their beautiful counterparts are still single?. After a thorough study and investigations of some 'ripe singles', I can authoritatively state the followings as the main reasons why some women remain single even for life. (1) NO SMILE SYNDROME: Besides the physical appearance of a person, one of those things that attract a man to a woman is the look on her face. Some girls find it very hard to smile. To them' smiling is a million dollars worth task, that is why they find it hard to smile. If not what does it cost any body to put a smile on her face? It is free you know!. Not smiling is very bad as it gives a wrong impressions of your person. No matter how beautiful a girl will look, if she has no smile on her face she is most likely to repel men from her path. (2) UNFRIENDLINESS: People who are not friendly, hardly make friends and the only way to get hooked up is to make good friends. Because some girls are hostile, unwelcoming and repelling, they find it difficult to find a life partner. (3) SNUBBISHNESS: Most women are fond of snubbing men any time they are approached. For God sake why will you snub somebody who have interest in you?. Alright, it is true that you can not like everybody and there is no law that says you must relate with everybody. The truth is that there are millions of friendly ways of showing somebody that you really don't have the interest. Learn to attend to every man politely irrespective of how he looks. (4) SELLECTION: While it is not wrong to choose a man you want to marry, it is very wrong to turn down all the men that proposed to marry you for some over ambitious motives. No man is one 100 % perfect and that is why you will never get your Mr. Perfect. For this reason you have to wait for more centuries before your Mr. Perfect may arrived. Tragically, you will no longer be alive at that time. That is if there is anyone like Mr. Perfect in the whole universe. (5) MATERIAL EXPECTATIONS: All most ladies want is 'already made'. They want to enter where it is already happening. They want to get married to men with luxury cars and expensive mansions. Why I am equally not against any woman getting married to a wealthy man, I want to let you know that very few men are rich. Now, if all women want to marry wealthy men and it is very obvious that rich men are rare, majority of the women have to wait for a very long time. They may even end up not getting married in the process of waiting for Mr. rich. (6) LACK OF RESPECT: Most girls are very disrespectful; they talk when they are not to talk and say what they shouldn't say. They equally do the wrong thing almost all the time. This is an attitude that real men detest with passion. (7) DIRTINESS: Even the bible acknowledged that cleanliness is next to Godliness. This is very correct as no sane man will even dream of coming close to you when you cannot keep yourself clean. Some folks believed that a person who is clean on the outside will equally be clean inside, this is because you only brings out what you have inside.

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Ten Tips to Tell If Your Boyfriend Isn't Marriage Material.


Hello friend, have you been wondering if your boyfriend isn't the one to marry? Do you have doubts sometimes? We can tell when our friends have a boyfriend that isn't really marriage material, but sometimes we are blinded by love. Here are
five signs to tell if your boyfriend isn't marriage material.

1. Does your boyfriend go from job to job? This is a sign of what your life would be like if you were to marry him. You would most likely have financial issues since he can't keep a job for long term. Poor work history is usually a poor reflection of ones character.

2. Does your boyfriend not manage money well? This is another indication that it would be a bad idea to marry this guy since he can't manage money very well. You may say that money isn't the important thing in the world, but it takes money to pay the mortgage or rent and keep the power turned on each month.

3. Does your boyfriend have poor credit and doesn't care about paying his bills? If he doesn't care about his credit then he most likely won't care about messing up your credit either. Unless he has a good reason for having bad credit such as severe medical issues, or once owned a company that went bankrupt then be concerned.

4. Does your boyfriend not own a car ? Most people are able to afford to own a car either new or a older one. Be concerned if your boyfriend doesn't own a car. If he has to walk everywhere then he is probably not very reliable. If your boyfriend says that he can't afford to buy a car or even a older car then be worried. He won't be able to provide you with basic living expenses that people need.

5. Does your boyfriend not have a drivers license or has a suspended drivers license? Be concerned if your boyfriend doesn't have a drivers a license or can't manage to keep one in good standing. It shows that he is not a very responsible person. He may tell you that it is suspended due to not paying his parking tickets, but if he can't manage to pay his tickets then be concerned. 6. Does your boyfriend have kids that he doesn't visit often? If he neglects to see his children from a previous relationship then be concerned. If he tells you that the mom won't let him see his children then ask why.
If he gives you an answer that seems fishy or if you feel that something doesn't quite add up then you need to investigate further.

7. Does your boyfriend not pay child support on a regular basis? This is a major sign. Be concerned if he doesn't care about taking care of his children. He may use every excuse for not paying child support or being late, but it shows that he not very responsible. It is a sign of the way he would be with you if you ever had kids with him. Be careful.

8. Does your boyfriend not care about his stuff or your stuff ? If he doesn't care about your stuff or his stuff then be concerned. He shows that he doesn't care about things and doesn't realize the value of stuff. If he doesn't take care of his stuff properly such as expensive things then it shows he is not very responsible.

9. Does your boyfriend have a past history of being violent or being abusive in any other way? If the answer is yes then you need to leave the relationship immediately and perhaps get a restraining order against him since he is dangerous to women. Be very concerned if he has any past records of domestic violence.

10. Does your boyfriend have a long criminal record? If he has been in and out of jail constantly then it isn't a good idea to be in a relationship with him. He is not very responsible and it isn't worth spending money on bail to get him out of jail almost all the time.

Red Flags Your Boyfriend Isn't the One.


Let me ask, Are you dating someone and wondering if he's the man for you? Are you not sure if he's husband quality? Here are some warning signs that might indicate he's not Mr. Right. These are purely my opinion, based on my
limited social work experience and relationships I've seen in my life. I believe that these are good indicators that your man is not for you.

Warning Sign #1: He doesn't treat his mother well.

Does he constantly complain about, badmouth, and have no respect for his mother? Does he argue with his mother frequently? Overall, does he not treat her well? That might be a good indication of how he'd treat you someday. If he doesn't respect his mother, that is a big red flag that he isn't the one for you. The same goes with how he treats his sister, grandmother, or other women in general.

The only situation i could think where this might be different, is if he had been abused or neglected by his mother. But even in that case, he should not be mistreating her, perhaps be estranged. If you are in that scenario, I recommend asking a counselor for advice.

Warning Sign #2: He doesn't have a steady job.

I may sound harsh, but if he's not working or in school full time, he's not marriage material. A good man should be able to support his family. Yes, its possible he could change. But you better make sure he's changed before you say "I do." What I mean, is he's had a poor work history in the past, he needs to have had a steady job for at least 18 months or so, before you even think about marrying him.

Warning Sign #3: He is possessive.

If he tells you what you can and can't do, wear, or what kind of friends you can have, it time to say buh-bye. That is a big red flag of abusive men. If he is trying to control you, he's not for you.

Warning Sign #4: He criticizes you.

If he says hurtful, negative things to you about you, then its time to call it quits and move on. You deserve better. It will only get worse, hon, if you stay in this relationship.

Warning Sign #5: He has ever hit, slapped, or punched you.Yep, that's a big red flag, sweetie. Is this the kind of guy you want to be the father of your children? Please don't make excuses for him, that behavior is not acceptable in any situation or scenario. It's time to move
on. If you are in this situation, I recommend you call the national domestic violence hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.

Warning Sign #6: He is in serious debt and not trying to work out of it.

Has he accumulated a large amount credit card debt or other bills? Does he admit he's made some mistakes and is trying to get out of it? If not, he's not for you. Do you really want to start off a marriage in that boat? This is not to say he can't have any debt (as its understandable to have student loans, car payments, medical bills, etc.), but if he's been frivolous with spending money and is not trying to change, that's a big sign he's Mr. Wrong.

Warning Sign #7: He doesn't share the same religious beliefs as you.

I'm just being honest. If you're not on the same page in the religion department, I don't believe he's a perfect match for you.

Warning Sign #8: He has lied to you.

A good man is an honest man. Liars don't make good husbands. That is just my personal opinion that I feel is a big red flag.

Warning Sign #9: You're not physically attracted to him.

I know this one is obvious! But I really felt I needed to include it, as there are many women who do marry someone they aren't physically attracted to and in love with. If you aren't "goo-goo-ga-ga" attracted to him, then please don't marry him. There are other fish in the sea.

Warning Sign #10: Your family/friends don't like him.

Okay, this is one where you need to use your best judgment. If your family and close friends have told you that they don't like him, by all means listen to them! If it's just one person, you might take that with a grain of salt, but if several people have told you, it's a big red flag! At the very least, please delay marriage for a long time if this is the case.

Warning Sign #11: He is going way too fast in the relationship.In college I had friends where their boyfriends told them they loved them just a few weeks after dating! And some we're talking marriage within a few weeks. And, you've guessed correctly, some of these
relationships didn't last. This is just my personal opinion, but marriage is something that should not be pushed and she be taken very seriously. It doesn't necessarily mean that it's not going to work out (as my grandparents were married for 50+ years and had a very short courtship), but I do consider this a warning sign.

Warning Sign #12:: He flirts with other woman.

No, it's not just you being jealous, it's a sign that this relationship isn't for you. If he flirts with your friends or other woman, he's not a good guy. If he denies it, that's an even bigger sign he's not for you. You need to marry someone who will be dedicated to you 100%.

Warning Sign #13: He uses drugs / is an alcoholic.

I feel that good marriages and drugs / alcohol abuse don't mix. If he uses drugs or you feel he is an alcoholic it's time to let him go. This is not to say that someone with problems in the past could be a good husband - as someone who messed up, got treatment, and stayed substance free for years might have potential. But if it's a problem now, it's time to say goodbye for now.

Warning Sign #14: For single mothers - your kids don't like him.

I'm just being brutally honest, but you need to put your children first. If your children have expressed that they do not like him, and aren't comfortable with your relationship, then that is a big warning sign it will not work out. If you really, truly believe he is the one for you, then you should wait until the kids are grown to get married.

Warning Sign #15: He has a problem with pornography.

This is a tough one because you might not even know about it. But, if you have ever caught him with pornography or found it on his computer, that's a sign this guy isn't for you. If he does admit he has a problem and is seeking treatment, speak with a counselor about continuing the relationship.

Warning Sign #16: He is constantly negative and bitter about life in general.

If he complains frequently about his job, his family, your mother, random people at the grocery store, etc., then please think twice about this relationship. Do you really want to spend your life with a grumpy and grouchy man? It will only get worse.

Warning Sign #17: He has children from past relationships but doesn't have much contact with them.

This one's pretty self-explanatory. If he doesn't pay child support, doesn't act as a father to his children, he's definitely not that man for you.

Warning Sign #18: He has any kind of criminal history that involves domestic violence or abuse.This one's obvious, but if he has ever had a restraining order against him, ever been arrested violent behavior, he's not Mr. Right. If he has other criminal history, I would
think twice (but not necessarily immediately call it quits) about him. You might speak with a counselor on this one. People do change.

Warning Sign #19: He doesn't meet all of the qualities you've dreamed for in a husband.

This is another challenging one. You don't want to picky and unreasonable, but at the same time you need to stick to your qualifications in a husband. For example, if you always though you'd marry someone who would support you in being a stay-at-home-mom someday, but he doesn't like the idea, then he's probably Mr. Wrong. If you've always wanted 3 kids and he's not sure he wants kids at all, he is definitely not Mr. Right for you. (He could be Mr. Right for someone else that wants a child free life.) You can settle when picking out your next car, but please don't settle for your husband.

Warning Sign #20: You are having some doubts.

If you are having an inkling of a feeling that he's not for you, by all means, listen to your intuition. Do not rush into marriage. I highly recommend speaking with a counselor to help you sort through your feelings.

These are just twenty warning signs that you are at risk of divorce, abuse, or just being unhappy. If your boyfriend fits any of these warning signs, please consult a counselor or minister. If you cannot afford counseling, you might try calling 211 for referrals - read this article for details.

Best of luck as you make decisions for your future.